Control is a means of comfort, but preparation for how life can happen is Freedom

We all have a natural desire to control our lives. We want to know what is going to happen next, and we want to be able to make decisions that will lead to the desired outcome. This desire for control is understandable, and it can be a source of comfort. However, it is important to remember that we cannot completely control our lives. There will always be unexpected events, opportunities, conflicts, and challenges good and bad that come our way.

The good news is that we can prepare for these unexpected moments. We can and have developed skills and knowledge that helps us to cope with them effectively. We can also build relationships with people who can support us during difficult times.

When we are prepared for the unexpected, we feel more in control of our lives. We know that we have the resources and abilities to deal with whatever comes our way. This gives us a sense of freedom that we would not have if we were constantly worried about the future.

Here are a few tips for preparing for the unexpected:

• Write down your strengths and weaknesses. with reflection on the events that you feel gave them to you those attributes. This is not an overnight process, but a worthwhile one. Are you organized, are you messy, are you quick to react, have kind of events have you gone to, and what do you notice about yourself in them? Are you good in crowds, Are you indulgent?

• Identify your goals and values. What is important to you in life? Once you know what you value, you can start to make decisions that are aligned with your goals and values. This will give you a sense of purpose and direction in your life.

• Start a small practice a few times a week reflecting on your goals, values, strengths, and weaknesses. Once you know what you want to achieve, you can start to develop a plan to get there. This will mean writing down where you want to improve on some of those things, what you love about those things, what you accept about them too, and where you might like to add.

• Build Community. Strong relationships are essential for our well-being. They provide us with support, love, and companionship. Make time for the people who are important to you, be there for them when they need you, ask for help when you might need it. The exchange of vulnerability is not weakness it is strength. I really feel vulnerability and is the most powerful of all emotions because it is why it is the most feared, not for its weakness but for the strength it builds. Your heart space can be hurt, but it is usually impeded by the story and pitfalls we place around it, while it remains perfectly healthy, but we thought it needed protection.

• Be prepared to change because you are Resilient. The world is constantly changing, and so must we, because there is pain in the resistance to change. Be open to new experiences and challenges because it is a method of practicing our resiliency. They say the only constant in the universe is change.

When we embrace this practice, we will be better prepared for the unexpected, we are more likely to achieve our goals and live fulfilling lives. We are also more likely to be resilient in the face of challenges. So let go of the need to control everything, and embrace the freedom of preparation.

We can’t predict the outcome, we are hopefully prepared for what comes.

When we are constantly trying to control everything, we are living in a state of fear and anxiety. We are worried about what might happen, could happen, should happen, would happen, and the whole time we are just trapping minds in a timeline that doesn’t exist, while the whole present world is happening. This can lead to stress, burnout, and a diminished quality of life.

On the other hand, when we trust ourselves to be prepared for what might come up, we can relax and enjoy the journey. We know that we have the tools, resources, and resiliency we need to deal with whatever comes our way. This gives us a sense of freedom, and empowerment, along with being more present for what the world has in store for us.