Embracing Abandonment and Rejection

In my practice of choosing to be vulnerable, I am facing my fears of rejection and abandonment. These are the tools that my ego is using to try to put the walls back up. I know that this will be a difficult path, but I am committed to it. I am learning that the feelings of rejection and abandonment that I experience are often projections from others. I am taking an outside event, that has to do with someone else, and making it about me. Then, I try to punish myself for being "less than." But this is not true. It is just a trick of the mind to keep me trapped in fear. So now, I bring my heart's arms up, embrace the child-like monsters of abandonment and rejection, and soothe them with the power of vulnerability. Why is this important? Vulnerability is essential for building deep and meaningful relationships. When we are vulnerable, we allow ourselves to be seen and known by others, even if it means risking rejection. But it is at this risk that we find true intimacy. When we are able to face our fears of rejection and abandonment, we can start to break free from the patterns of codependency and self-sabotage that have been holding us back. We can learn to love and accept ourselves unconditionally, and we can attract others who will love and accept us too. How to practice vulnerability Here are a few tips on how to practice vulnerability:

• Start small. Share something personal with a trusted friend or family member.

• Be honest with yourself about your feelings and needs.

• Be willing to take risks. This may mean putting yourself out there for someone new or sharing something that you are afraid of being judged for.

• Be patient with yourself. It takes time and practice to get skilled in the Kung Fu of vulnerability to become comfortable with it.
  

Vulnerability is not easy, but it is worth it. When we are vulnerable, we open ourselves up to the possibility of love, connection, community, and deep healing. I encourage you to embrace your vulnerability, and to soothe the child-like monsters of abandonment and rejection in the power of your heart space.